Trying to keep up with the obligatory duties that consume a great deal of your time and energy and still have enough of both left to invest in enjoyable recreation is a bit of a conundrum.

It may even feel like the more ahead you try to go, the more behind you get. Perhaps the problem arises because it appears to you as though work and play are mutually exclusive states of being and you fluctuate between them.

Inner tension builds and in order to find relief from this internal pressure you escape by embracing a pleasurable activity. Then feelings of guilt set in about sitting on your laurels and you are once again back in the cycle attempting to resolve the issue. The danger lies in blocking the conflict out, and escaping from the pressure by refusing to deal with the obligations involved.

The resolution process requires you to embrace the conflict rather than avoid it. This is done by giving yourself permission to put those obligations on a shelf for a time, and immersing yourself in those activities that bring you relief and renewal in order that you may fully recuperate. Learn to say no to others who make demands on your time and energy and recognize your needs are just as valid as theirs. Remember rest from work is a necessary part of a healthy lifestyle and if you would be there for others you must first remember to be there for yourself.